Gracefully facing everything

What do you want?

Yes, what is it you want in life?

What would you like more of, and what could be less?

What would you like to improve, and what would you love to dismiss?

How do you want to live?

What is it you long for?

What would need to stay, and where would you like to go?

Do you want it someday, or straight away?

If you have the answers to these questions, I can coach you toward the solution.

But it will require a fair amount of courage, effort, and dedication.

Change is deep

Tricks and skills

I have coached and I have been coached in many different ways in recent years. There was a lot of spiritual coaching, a lot of intellectual coaching, and eventually also a lot of mindset coaching, where everything was about ‘the right attitude’. Everything brought me something. Each approach taught me some useful tricks and skills that made my life more pleasant.

But somehow I  always fell back into old habits, and I had to work really hard to maintain the result somewhat.

By now, I’m absolutely convinced that many methods, almost all self-help solutions, and most spiritual philosophies, do not cause fundamental change. There’s often a temporary excitement and early euphoria, but our deepest beliefs and learned habits almost always eliminate that unstable gain.

Disappointment and disillusionment are waiting to happen.

As long as we’re controlled and constrained by the hidden side of our psyche, where the essential ideas about who we are and how we view the world are stored, change will almost always fail. This very deepest and cunning system guards our safety nonstop, which means that we robotically live by principles and assumptions from our childhood that are maintained at all costs.

Hidden fears

A lot of self-help, coaching, and spirituality adds something to our lives, as a kind of extra layer on top of what’s already there. Often quite promising and tasty, but in most cases those beautiful ideas about love and unity and abundance don’t penetrate to the core of our operating system.

That’s why the effects are often so disappointing.

Believe me: I am very sensitive to all those enlightening messages and I recognize the temporary value of a chunk of spirituality or a well-written self-help book, but it just does not really transform us. If you really want to do something about your obstructive beliefs, if you really want more freedom, it’s inevitable to go deep first.

The only thing that works sustainably is the direct realization that you don’t have to get away from anything and can handle everything. What you need is an exploration of your hidden fears, sabotaging ideas, and limiting beliefs.

Freedom is not a sweet idea, but a personal victory.

Your true power

I didn’t realize it, but in all the years where I experimented with self-help and spirituality, I was more concerned with avoiding my fears and stifling the belief that I’m not good enough, than concentrating on my true power. And that is my ability to endure discomfort and accept pain and uncertainty.

If you can do that, you can do anything.

Being human is incredibly difficult and complex. We want everything, we even want to work hard for it, but deep down all kinds of hidden processes play out that constantly get in the way. And as long as you don’t challenge and retrain that system, you keep thinking and doing the same thing, endlessly.

Maddening stuff! 

What I offer.

What I offer is extremely simple and clear: really getting to know yourself.

I create the welcoming space to confront the hidden fears and sneaky beliefs that continue to confuse many things in your life. Not only do I make my clients feel comfortable and understood: I fully and safely accompany the process to ultimate freedom and the confrontation with what we (unconsciously) run away from.

You can probably imagine that this can be quite challenging, but without examining your hidden foundations and your personal thoughts, we’ll never achieve real, lasting transformation.

Of course, eventually there’s also more than enough time and attention to the wishes that you probably have, and the goals with which most people approach me. Delicious things like increased happiness, rest, lightness, self-confidence, success and fulfillment, or less anxiety, stress, worry, and confusion.

It’s a unique process that starts deep and ultimately goes higher and higher.

What to expect?