Finding your way out of addiction.

There’s no such thing as a drinking problem.

Or a drug problem.
Or any other problem that is somehow connected to things we do in ways that are unhealthy and compulsive and obsessive.
Even though there are many activities we can get hooked on in a really fucked up and undermining way, they are not the problem.
None of them.
They are just dubious, temporary ways to deal with what we REALLY fear:
We can’t stand it.
We run away from it.
We drown it in whatever we can get our hands on.
But our addiction of choice is not our choice.
There’s not a single addict in the world who wants to be addicted.
What they want, what we ALL want, is just to feel good.
To feel safe, to feel whole, to experience peace of mind, or at least realize that it’s just around the corner instead of forever out of reach.
We want to be liberated from the incessant criticism of the mind, from the pain of our imagination.
And the habits we call addictions are just clumsy (and often really effective) ways to get there.
They are distractions.
Temporary walls of separation.
But they are not the problem.
Truly understanding this will lead to healing.
It can show us the real, ultimate solution for our problems.
Because it’s not really about quitting the habit:
it’s about learning to be uncomfortable.
About resilience.
About weathering the storm.
And by doing so, by starting to feel the vivid peace we try to accomplish by our addictions, we can trust and let go.
There’s no substitute for being high on life.
It’s the thing we are all looking for.
And it doesn’t have to be a problem.
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Coming home.

Coming home.

Wasting time.

Wasting time.