Addictions can ruin your life.
They can turn you into a mindless monster, even.
But they are not a problem.
Or THE problem.
Addictions are a fairly helpful solution to something deeper, and that is your unwillingness to be with discomfort.
Really happy and fulfilled people never get hooked, because the temporary surrogate high of the addiction doesn’t really match up to the lasting high of being fully alive.
That’s why fighting an addiction is almost always useless.
It’s simply not sustainable.
It’s just exhausting.
So if there’s no real substitute for your habit, you’ll always have to rely on willpower and staying strong, and that is a very fragile concept.
In my vast experience with addiction, I have seen that only true and authentic happiness is a match for our destructive habits.
Happiness is the anchor, the absolute ground that supports us, and without it we’re almost always lost.
Like I said: habits are there to help us feel a bit less shitty, to feel a tiny bit less uncomfortable and a bit less engaged with our minds that are never really satisfied.
They are simply a crude attempt at feeling happier.
And that’s why, in order to become unaddicted, we need to fully experience our natural power to be okay no matter what.
Happiness is just another word for that state of mind.
Happiness is the antidote to everything we suffer from.
How happy are YOU?