In the coaching conversations I initially have, there’s one question that is universally asked: ‘What do I do?’ I tell people about being okay with not being okay, about the misunderstandings of the mind, about how…
We are so fucked. One of the biggest blind spots we have as human beings (and it is truly HUGE) is the idea that circumstances create our wellbeing, our safety, and even who we are. Now…
09/01/2021 0 Comments
It took me 52 years to get comfortable about my path. To start to feel whole, powerful, authentic, or, well, myself. Like most people I’ve lived most of my life in fear of being abandoned, being…
08/01/2021 0 Comments
When I was five or six, I died. In a way. It was a scorching hot summer day, my older brother and me were in the Dutch countryside with some friends, and he had brought me…
07/01/2021 0 Comments
Life is short. It’s a cliché, and it is also very true. Life is short and you are here to sparkle like a magic lake in a Disney movie. You are here to kick ass and…
02/01/2021 0 Comments
Okay. Let’s say you want to do things differently in 2021. Let’s say you want to change, a lot, or just a few things. Well, you can. You can get in shape again. You can find…
01/01/2021 0 Comments
Sometimes you hear people say ‘you already have everything you need’. Or ‘you already are what you are looking for.’ And that is true, it is, but it is also not very helpful. It’s a bit…
30/12/2020 0 Comments
‘We don’t see things as they are, we see them as WE are.’ Ah yes. One of those really profound quotes (attributed to writer Anaïs Nin) that tickle our imagination, that tease a bit of wisdom…
29/12/2020 0 Comments
Een tijdje geleden vroeg ik op twitter het volgende: Het is niet dat ik door mijn onderwerpen heen ben, maar ik vind de specifieke uitingsvorm van bepaalde problemen altijd fascinerend, omdat er in de basis eigenlijk…
22/12/2020 0 Comments
You have a gift. I don’t know what it is, but it’s there. It might be truly spectacular or extremely simple. It might be gardening, coaching, or writing. It might be scoring goals in soccer World…